What is my mother's deal?

i know this isn't an answer you wanted, but i just wanted to say i know exactly how you feel!! your lucky you live in a different house than her though... me and my husband had to move in with her because the job that she forced him to get laid off all the new people... and im sick of her crap and ive only been here for 2 months... she is trying to rule my whole life and tell me what to do... thats the reason i moved out in the first place!! but i wish you the best of luck with this!!! its hard! but i think you and your bf shouldn't be paying anything for her! let her take care of it. and if you don't want to talk to her ignore her phone call... and make up an excuse to why you didn't pick up... i can't talk to my mom either she just yells like a 2 year old at me... its so stupid... it thought the older you were the mature you were suppose to be... that is not true At all!!!