Adults: I think I hit the breaking point... what can I do?

to start off with, marriage has to have trust. if he thinks you are going to leave him then obviously he has a trust issue with you. If that is what most of the fights are about he needs to start trusting you. Jealousy can ruin relationships fast. Every time a couple fights, it's a step backward in a relationship not forward and sometimes somethings we say or do can cause damage that no matter what can't be forgiven. If i were in your shoes, i would move on. I wouldn't say that starting from scratch is bad, you are not happy now. It would be a start of your new happiness. Go to your counseling appointment and see how that goes. Maybe you both should go. If you both love each other there is a chance it may work, but there are serious issues that have to be solved before it has a chance to work. Life is too short to not be happy and a good relationship has trust, love and respect for each person. If you think you are at your breaking point, it is probably a sign change is needed, and soon. Good luck honey.